One Night that changed my way of thinking forever

  • Dedicated to all the Fathers in the world.
  • Inspired by a true incident (Names and some changes are being made in the actual incident in order to protect the identity)

November 2008

Lights, lights, lights….

Lights from the oil lamps (Deepas) everywhere. Lights from the serial sets everywhere. In front of everyone’s home, alongside rangolis, and on the compound walls everywhere. You got it right, it was Diwali night. Diwali, as you all know, the festival of light which celebrates the triumph of good over evil. Everyone were happy in the house, in the neighborhood, in the streets but me? Not really.

The sound of crackers excited me about burning the Lakshmi Pataki, the Atom Bombs, and other similarly large scale crackers. For an eight year boy like me they meant a lot. And I couldn’t control my temptation of getting my hands over a box full of crackers.

Oh no, I forget to tell you about me. Myself Siddharth aka Siddu. An eight-year-old bought up by oveprotective parents. And I don’t really have any kind of freedom and always my Amma goes, don’t do this, don’t do that. I’m really fed up at this.

Suddenly, “Siddu, Siddu….” Rang out a voice, shouting at me.

“Siddu, how many times I’ve told you not to even touch the crackers without me telling you. Do you even know how dangerous it is? What if something goes wrong?” It was my mom, of course. She paused for a while but still kept staring me and continued, “Just wait for tomorrow’s newspaper. You will get to know the number of people who lost their eyes due to these stupid crackers”.

And that was a full stop to all my temptations over crackers. I was not allowed to burn big crackers but I was allowed only small crackers like sur sur bathi, flower pots and bhu chakra. What is it? Is this even my life? Why did this happen to me only and not to other kids in my neighborhood.

However, I was allowed to burn the big crackers under my Appa’s supervision. But unfortunately, on the same day my Appa had to attend business meeting and was out of town.

Therefore, on that day I went to sleep unsatisfied of anything. I was mentally cursing my father for not being present in the house even on the day of festival.

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With this cracker incident haunting my dreams, I woke up in the mid sleep and found myself sweaty and full of thirst. I headed to the kitchen for a glass of water. I found my father was back home. He was sleeping in the master bedroom. Walking further, I found his Nokia touch screen phone put to charge on the sofa arm.

I picked it up and went straight to my room. Obviously, I wanted to play ‘Galaxy Battles’ which was my favorite game in his phone. By mistake, I hit ‘Gallery’ instead of the game. To my surprise I found the birthday pictures of a small boy. He looked very happy. I could sense it in his eyes. I was in full of question marks on seeing these pictures. How random it seemed! A small boy, a birthday, phone pictures and my father. Confused, I decided to keep my dad’s phone back to charge. In a hurry, I rushed to the sofa and I put it back to charge. As I was rushing back to my room, thud came a sound. I could sense that both my parents were about to wake to investigate the sound. I rushed back to my room and I pretended to be asleep. I figured that I knocked down the metal flower vase while running back.

Whew, thank god, I didn’t get caught by them.

“I guess it’s the wind. Close the hall window” said Appa to Amma. I listened curiously to hear what they would do next. “Get my phone. I’ll show you something” Appa said. She handed it to him. I had no visual. I could only hear their conversation.

“Look at these pics of this three year old boy, look how happy he is on his birthday. It reminds me of my Siddu”. He paused for a while. “It’s the baby of my client whom I met him today.” He rambled on a bit longer. Amma replied mostly in short sentences. “Oh!, Is it, Good, Wow, Wonderful”. I guessed she was sleepy and tired.

“You know what? My client is such a good person. He doesn’t have any ego despite he being very rich. It’s sad that he’s been bed ridden from past 2 years”.

“My client is in a bad condition, he wants me to get his son covered under a large insurance policy with a huge premium. He has got only his younger brother by his side as his wife died five years ago due to cancer. I don’t really want to approve his policy just to reach the company target. But I really want to help him”. The story continued. It looked interesting. I kept on listening and what he said next touched my heart.

“Such a bad condition, right? Thank god we are all such a happy family though we don’t have as much wealth. I really missed Siddu today. I suppose he must be feeling bad about that crackers but what can I do? Its my job. I can’t even spend the Diwali day with my son”. He was expressing his pain to Amma. Amma further asked about how he celebrated the kid’s birthday. I suppose she was trying to deviate his mind.

He was expressing his pain to Amma. Amma further asked about how he celebrated the kid’s birthday. I suppose she was trying to deviate his mind.

“I somehow came to know that yesterday was his son’s birthday. I just acted as though I was celebrating Siddu’s birthday while I was there. “Take a look at these pics”. He kept swiping one by one. “How cute. How happy he is” said my Amma.

That was the night I felt so proud of my father. Whatever may be the situation and however strict (and sometimes irritating) my parents are they still love me like anything. I’m fortunate to have them as my parents. And I decided to think in a broader way from since that incident.

WAKE-UP INDIA

Let me start off by asking you a question! All of what is happening in our country presently, these gang rapes, kidnapping, molestation, murder, child trafficking, do we the people living in this country feel safe?

Finally it’s being proved that, these so called rights for women exists is only in the social science textbooks and not in reality.

Candle marches, Tweets about these trending, news channels covering them for TRP are well and good but why publicize the name of that unfortunate girl? Instead spread a word about the person who has did such a horrendous act and make him pay for his sins!!

And I really don’t understand why are these questions left unsaid by our so called society.

  • Why is it, so the society frowns on girls wearing short dresses?
  • ‎When a girl comes from late night parties, why is it looked at with different perspectives by the society? Whereas same is ok with men
  • ‎If a boy is too close among girls it’s okay whereas why is it so looked different with girls by the society?
  • Why does this society looks down upon when a girl is a divorcee when same is okay among men?
  • ‎If a boy is too close among girls it’s okay whereas why is it so looked different with girls by the society?
  • Why does this society looks down upon when a girl is a divorcee when same is okay among men?

The best possible answer which I can give you is “She is a girl” and “She is not supposed to….”. These kind of stereotypical, hypocritical, and old system of mindset must be removed for once and all if India wants a change.

“We don’t need to tell our country’s girls to sit inside the house and not to got out but instead tell our country’s son’s to behave outside”

Yesterday, it was Nirbhaya, today it is Asifa,and tomorrow it could be someone who is dear you.

Due to these humiliating but true incindents people from other countries are now afraid to come to India and the whole world is looking cheap upon us. What’s happening to us, WAKE UP INDIA, WAKE UP.

We Indians these days, we tend to follow foreign culture a lot. If really follow everything from them, then even we need to adopt their judicial system too, and their judgments about these are too harsh for the accused and it must be to be a safe and sound country. Our Indian judicial system really need to learn a lot from them.

Justice must be upheld regardless of any religion, gender,age,race, and the guilty must be severely punished for such outrage acts

The Advent of Cricket Vs The Other Sports in India

Cricket at the Olympics

Well guys, how’s the sporting in India? Much focused on only Cricket isn’t it? Friends, I wont be wrong and be mistaken if I say that other sports are being neglected as well as these sports are being discriminated with Cricket. Isn’t it?

Every sport must be treated as equal but this sort of situation is deviated. It won’t be of surprise to you if i say that it is due to this kind of deviation that where we even struggle to get even a single gold medal in the olympic games despite having a huge population of 121 crores [as of 2011 census]. We have won a total of 28 olympic medals overall while only Michel Phelps, a swimmer of USA alone has won a 28 individual medals. Well this is indeed a time to think for it?

Also Our Indian football team has moved up of 77 places from 2 years. We shall be proud of it, because they have achieved it without any support from us. if we give support to them surely they will become one of the FIFA world cup playing nations in the world.

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Recently Asian athletics 2017 meet was held in Bhubaneshwar, where we Indians topped the medals tally. Even beating China, the country which tops the medals tally in almost every olympic session

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Well what does this prove? Having a dense population of 121 crores, don’t we have any sporting talent in our country? Really tell me friends,this is a million dollar question..

Not only that, even though there are so many games and events there in olympics most of the people in our country may not have heard about the names of the games ever before.Many of the names of the games have become alien to people. Really this is a pathetic situation.

This is not the problem of football, atheletics, the problem is in almost every sport. Not getting any of the support from the government or from the media or from any sponserers, these sports are facing a grave danger.

“Just be You”

‘Don’t try to live in someone else’s life, as the Life is very short for you’.

-Steve Jobs, Apple founder, ex CEO

Friends I’m back after a long time. So here I go! Now what does actually being ourselves mean? What is like living in someone else’s life? An Inspiration story of Amish Tripathi.How can you live to the fullest by living in your passion? find out more!!

  • Whoever you are and whatever you are, be you. Living in someone else’s life is like wearing someone else’s innerwear.

  • The thing is that you are not comfortable with that.
  • And next is that you are not feeling the same feeling as yours.

Always do what you wanted to do. Initially you may get discouraged,rejected and left alone without getting any help from others but once when you finish off , hit the target more than what you expected, achieve succes and reach on top, the joy of that is something different…. isn’t it?

So now here’s an inspirational story of the India’s literary popstar, the self-publishing sensation, Amish Tripathi

It’s quite surprising and disheartening to know that his debut novel in shiva trilogy ‘The immortals of Meluha’ was rejected by not 2 or 3 but by over 20 publishers. 8 more than J K Rowling’s rejection list for Harry potter series. Did he give up? No…..

He was being himself and self published his first book. It was a instant best seller. Later it was republished by westland publishers and rest is history. Today his books are 4 million copies sold and has been translated to 19 language including 6 foreign languages.

You know what, when he was rejected by 20 publishers, he didn’t give up but was starting to write his second book. Surprising and inspiring isn’t it?

Don’t tell them (people) your plans, if you tell them there is a chance that you may be their laughing stock. Put the plans back into action & show them your results. Well this will zip their mouths isn’t it?

A crumpled 2000 rupee note doesn’t even loose out its value even after that stage. Similarly whatever maybe your condition and whatever maybe the situation never give up. Do what you wanted to do. Just be you, just be you

©shreyas

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Yours
Shreyas

BELIEVE…….BECOME 

What is belief?

Belief is actually something in which we accept something which exist or it is perhaps the trust, faith or confidence in someone or something. A belief is such that you tend to be somebody from that.

Significance of belief

The Belief and other elements like courage, dedication, determination, efforts, perseverance are like the wax of a candle and the flame of a candle represents the success. The flame burns until the wax of candle last right? In the same manner the success comes with a lot of belief and other elements.
Given the fact that we really don’t know whether the God himself exists or not. What is that, that makes us feel the existence of God? Well the answer is quite simple the beliefs makes us feel the existence of God.

To become something belief plays a vital role. Now here I give some instances for that

  • When a person is severely injured and gets admitted into the hospital what will the doctor say? Well he may say that nothing is to be worried as the patient will be fine with some medication. As soon as the patient gets to know this the patient will healed very soon. That moment when the patient believes in himself that nothing has happened to him, and he can be fine soon, he will begin to heal than before on what he had a negative feelings on himself before
  • This is actually a incident that took place decades ago somewhere in the parts of Europe. There was no one one in that place who could lift a 1000 pound weight lifting belt. After some years a person was made to believe that that weight lifting belt is not a 1000 pound one and finally he lifted a 1000 pound lifting belt in reality without knowing to himself.
  • This is the study conducted by the scientists. There were two groups of students of same intelligence level. One group of students were told that they are the most intelligent people and can crack any major exams also. While the other group of students were told that they are fit for nothing and are totally useless. But in reality both the groups of students are of same intelligence level. Exams were conducted. The results was such that the group which was motivated performed greater while the group which was demotivated performed very poor
    • Well we can connect the above instances in your life also that don’t worry about the problems in your life, just focus on your goals & work towards it. You can make things get right
    • Actually we can make a note of one thing from that above instances, the major factor that plays a crucial role for anyone is belief. If one believes in himself that he can do anything and if he continues to give his best to achieve that, surely one day or the other he will become something under any circumstances.

        The perspectives of belief

        Different people may see the same thing in a different manner. The belief is same but the manner in which the people believe the things are quite different from each other.

        For instance I am going to take a empty sheet of paper

        1. A studious guy may think I can use it for practising maths or whatever subjects he may like
        2. A creative guy may may think I can use it for making paper craft or write any story
        3. A naughty one may think I can play cricket with that by making it into a paper ball
        4. A eco friendly ones may think that I can make it recycled
        5. A bully ones may think that I can trouble others by making it into a paper ball & by throwing into them
        6. A bored guy may think that I can play bingo or XOXO (tic tac toe) with that
        7. A total irresponsible & useless fellow may think that I can litter the place by tearing it into many pieces

        We can note that different people may see the same thing in a different way. Well we can tell from these that problems are same but how we believe in making the things makes difference.

        Becoming something beating the odds

        Becoming something which we wish for is not an easy task as we may sit and think that I should become this, I should become that. Believing in those things and becoming that something requires a huge amount of risks for even small part of that success also

        Success is like a top of the iceberg. Below the iceberg contains many other elements which are not included in the above pic are like believing in that something, dedication, determination and many things

        Despite all the efforts in becoming something, failure plays a major role in that.

        • Well failure not actually the opposite of success but it is a part of success.
        • As the acronym itself says

        F – First

        A – Attempt

        I – In

        L – Learning

        We all know about the famous scientist Thomas Alva Edison,the inventor of light, which is called ‘The invention of the century’. For inventing light he almost failed about a 1000 times until he found tongsten as the right material for the tubelight. Well people got surprised after what he had said after inventing it. He said “I am not at all bothered about myself failing a 1000 times but I’m happy that I had found out a 1000 new ways to work with”

        • There is a saying that ‘Failures are the proofs that we are trying’ and always committing mistakes are better than faking perfection
        • Well at least the person who has committed mistakes can rectify his mistakes and try not to commit in future onwards, well the person who has faked perfection doesn’t even get the chance like that.

        ©shreyas

        “Time – The Superweapon”

        As it is said that “Time &Tide waits for none”, time never wait for anyone in this world,be it the for rich fellow or the poor one,it really cares for none. Time once gone never comes back in our dear lives. In today’s generation one who makes the most effective use of the time wins and one way or the other.Everything you see in this world are temporary, nothing is permanent with Time.

        • Now imagine that there is a bank that credits your account each morning with a ₹86,400/- it carries over no balance from day to day.Each evening it deletes whatever part of balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do?Draw out every penny out of it right?
        • Each of us have a Bank. It’s name is Time .Every morning it credits you 86400 seconds.Every night it writes off whatever of this you have failed to invest with the good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you.Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposit, the loss is your’s.There is no going back. There is no drawing against ‘tomorrow’. You must live in the present on today’s deposits.

        So now what time matters let’s us look down in the following.

        1. To realise the value of One Year, ask the student who has failed in a grade.
        2. To realise the value of One Month, ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.
        3. To realise the value of One Week, ask the editor of a weekly magazine.
        4. To realise the value of One day, ask the daily wage labour.
        5. To realise the value of One Hour, ask the teacher who is taking a class.
        6. To realise the value of One Minute, ask the person who has just missed the train.
        7. To realise the value of One Second, ask the person who has just avoided an accident.
        8. To realise the value of One millisecond ask a person who has won the silver medal in the Olympics.

        So remember guys, “Yesterday is a history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift”.That is why it is called the ‘present‘.The clock is ticking. Make the most out of today.

        ©shreyas

        Now please feel free and tell me what you have felt after reading this. Good or bad all reviews are accepted heartly and help me improve my blogs. Since this is my first blog I request you guys to comment on whatever you feel regarding this.

        Yours

        Shreyas